#peopleareawesome, Mental Health Check

BETWEEN A ROCK & A HARD PLACE

Where do you turn to after leaving an 8-5 job to venture into the rugged world of agribusiness only for your venture to collapse within two years?

What do you do when you suddenly discover that you can’t even feed yourself and your immediate dependants?

Such are the times when options run out and despair kicks in.

All along, you had calculated and weighed every situation before you made the move…

By all means you thought you were covered…

You knew that the job would feed your family constantly for 5 years…

You knew that the business would remain afloat and even grow enabling you to do unimaginable exploits…

You knew that all would turn out well but only just…

You see…our plans usually depend on an expected reality that most (if not all) situations around us remain constant.

But nothing prepares us for eventualities that are literally out of the ordinary…

For me, nothing prepared me for a gusty wind which in an instant brought down a greenhouse investment worth nearly half a million shillings…

This food basket not only supplied vegetables to vendors in my neighborhood…

It literally sustained me.

All was going well until one day, when all ‘hell’ broke lose and the investment came tumbling down.

I was left down, out and without options…

Today, our reality has been shaken on a major scale by a pandemic none of us saw coming…

At the start of the year, most of us exchanged good tidings with each other…

We had grand plans about the year…

We were optimistic enough to know that we would weather the storms 2020 would bring our way…

But nothing prepared us for a virus that literally sneaked out of it’s bat hideout to make our lives miserable.

As nations battle to flatten the curve of infection, this pandemic is flattening people’s progress in unimaginable ways…

Stagnation is perhaps a perfect word to describe where most of us are…

Infact for some of us, we’re not even stagnant but on a free fall…

Weeks before, we earned and lived well enjoying the finer things of life…

Today, we’re lost in thought not knowing where the next meal will come from…

Our jobs are long gone…

Our businesses are gone with the wind…

It’s a well known fact that this pandemic will give rise to a mental health problem like no other.

The burden of a depressed citizenry will increase.

Such heavy moments rob us of hope that still exists all around us.

Perhaps this is a note to myself and others who’re prone to despair at such times.

We might have lost everything else…

Our plans might have been scuttled and we’re left wondering, “What in this world is left for me?”

Perhaps this note might land on the palms of one who’s contemplating the unthinkable…

With a rope in his hand and a knob on the ceiling, all the pieces have fallen into place and now he’s ready to end his life…

I’d urge for a moment, ” Before you take that step, reflect on the following four questions”…:

WHO AM I?

All ‘hell’ has broken loose…

But you’re still here and the question is why?

There must be a reason much greater than the job you’ve lost or the business that has come crumbling down.

The pain such episodes deliver is bound to drive us nuts…

They might lead us to think that we amount to nothing.

But temporary situations shouldn’t drive us towards choices with permanent consequences.

Perhaps it’s time to weather down the storm.

Look for a shoulder to cry on…

Let off steam with a friend…

Seek help professionally if necessary…

Discover yourself through being vulnerable to others who can help…

Perhaps as the dust settles, pick up lessons…

Learn more about yourself and what matters most…

Discover those things you do without struggle…

Those activities that make you tick even without delivering a cent to your pocket…

Lockdown is not just a moment of lull but a time to silently discover what you tend towards.

WHERE DO I WANT TO GO?

Discovering what you’re all about is just the beginning of a rugged journey ahead.

This journey starts where we are and ends where we want to be.

However downcast you may be, cast a vision of where you want to be in 5, 10, 20, 30 years…

Self discovery has exposed the dormant potential within…

With a vision in hand, you tell yourself where you’d like it to get you after some time.

WHAT DO I NEED TO GET THERE?

Whereas a vision spells the endgame, a roadmap defines what’s needed to get to the end.

Misfortunes such as these leave us battered and bruised…

Being out of business or work, is tantamount to being out of the much needed resources to get you through the rugged terrain towards your goal.

But it won’t pain to note down what you need?

Don’t be conservative… Go all out and write down what you need to get to your dream destination.

That profitable spare parts business…

That dream banking job…

That dream house…

Don’t just dream about them…

Jot down what you need to get them.

WHERE DO I START?

The starting point is usually the first push that spurs us into action.

Starting well starts with knowing what you have and what you can do with it.

Starting with what you have helps you build momentum as you gear towards getting what you need.

Your endgame could be having a large farm yet you live in an estate.

How about you start growing vegetables in containers on your balcony?

Your endgame could be starting that large wholesale shop yet you only have a few coins.

How about you buy some wares and sell to your neighbours and people around you.

Never despise the days of humble beginnings.

It’ll start small but most definitely will grow if it’s in you.

IN CONCLUSION

Seek to make the most out of what you have.

You being alive today is a sure testament that there’s hope after all.

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